1- Communicate. It can't be said enough: Communication is key to a successful marriage. Talk through situations instead of building up resentment and frustration. Work through problems as a couple instead of taking sides, belittling one another and yelling.
2- Accept your spouse the way he is. Some people get into marriage thinking they can mold or change their spouse. This is setting the relationship up for failure. Instead, accept your spouse's flaws and learn to live with them. For example, if your husband is grumpy in the morning because he isn't a morning person, love him anyway.
3- Ignore the small stuff. Although marriage is full of obstacles and challenges, focus on the important things. Forget the little issues that don't matter in the big scheme of married life. Work through obstacles as a team.
4- Take time to show your spouse that you appreciate her. Focus on things that your partner does well or that please you, and let her know. For example, if your wife has been home all day with the kids, give her a gift certificate for a spa visit or manicure.
5- Plan weekly "dates." Although you are officially married, continue dating: One day a week, hire a babysitter and go on a date. Avoid talking about stressful issues such as work, money or kids on your date. A date doesn't have to be an expensive affair; a picnic in the park or a romantic dinner would work. Time with each other can reinforce those loving feelings.
6- Plan time for yourself. Spending time with friends is just as essential. Being away from your spouse will help you appreciate him.
